Being a responsible and responsive father entails significant responsibilities. As such, it is crucial to recognize that the role of a father extends beyond being the head of the family. Instead, fathers are expected to act as coaches, mentors, and role models. A father is the male parent of a child. The primary responsibility of a father is to ensure the proper development and upbringing of their child, considering that the family is the immediate environment in which a child grows. Children undergo various developmental processes that may expose them to vulnerabilities. It is the responsibility of the father to strengthen the guidance and exercise effective supervisory roles to ensure that the child overcomes any challenges they may face in life, including stress, worries, anxieties, fears, and other negative emotions.

The Role of the Father in the Home

The father assumes the primary parental, social, and spiritual responsibilities, which are essential for the child’s holistic development. By fostering connections with others, the father ensures the child’s spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, and social growth.

Furthermore, the father provides financial and physical support to the family, instilling in children the importance of honesty and integrity. As a role model, coach, and mentor, the father guides children towards positive behavior and teaches them problem-solving skills aligned with biblical principles, such as “Teach children the good way, and when they grow up, they will not depart from it.”

It is pertinent to note that child upbringing and development should not be taken for granted. A father should be intentional in his role as the pillar of strength in the family, providing unwavering support and instilling discipline with an open mind. A father should be humble, supportive, and loyal to his family, ready to protect them with unconditional love for all members.

The role of a father in the upbringing and development of children for a compassionate society cannot be overstated. However, most fathers are not present to fulfill these pivotal roles and responsibilities, leaving them to their spouses due to legal battles or other pressing issues. The ability of a father to recognize these significant responsibilities is crucial for developing measures aimed at stabilizing cognitive, affective, and psychomotor abilities. For instance, through established friendly communication between the father and child, even amidst challenges, the father can identify when the child is struggling with issues and experiencing behavioral changes and mood swings. The father should recognize the immense responsibility they have embraced and that the success of any child and family depends on their ability to coordinate effectively and prioritize the family above all else. The father should not disconnect themselves from their family or abandon their role and responsibilities of proper upbringing of a child, as the future of any society and family is predicated on the well-being of our children.

The writer, Coach Ebere Amaraizu is a Certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Coach. A U.S. IVLP Alumni, Child Care Expert, Developer, and Certified NIS Coach, Olympic Sports Administrator and Manager, Coach Amaraizu is the pioneer chairman of Rangers International Football Club Foundation and the Lead Consultant at Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation & Coli Mental Health Academy.

Caring for a child entails implementing measures that ensure the provision of physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and social well-being, as well as addressing other developmental needs. Additionally, it involves offering love, affection, proper nutrition for brain health, a safe environment, guidance, education, and other forms of support to facilitate their growth into healthy and well-rounded individuals.

This approach also involves paying attention to a child’s verbal and nonverbal routines and encouraging exploration and play. Additionally, it fosters positive communication, enabling the identification of stress, anxiety, mood swings, fear, worries, and potential causes. Furthermore, it requires appropriate attention to be given.

This is because when these issues are not addressed, they can trigger behavioral changes and struggles, which can motivate their navigation to negative pathways and offending behavior. They seek solace, and if it is not coming from you, it may come from a child or peer who has developed contact with members of organized criminal groups.

...Coach Amaraizu

The International Association of Therapists (IAOTH) Republic of Ireland has certified Coli Mental Health Academy as an Accredited Training Provider in the field of Mental Health. This certification is contained in the certification letter issued by the Association to Coli Mental Health Academy on January 16, 2025, and signed by Tania Magdalene-Casey, the IAOTH President.

As outlined in the certification letter, Coli Mental Health Academy has been recognized as an Accredited Training Provider by the International Association of Therapists (IAOTH). This recognition is contingent upon the Academy’s commitment to upholding the professional training standards required for membership in the IAOTH organization.

The International Association of Therapists has affirmed the status of Coli Mental Health Academy as an Accredited Training Provider within the organization.

In response to the development, Johnbosco Chika Chukwuorji, PhD, a U.S. IVLP Alumni, Clinical Psychologist, and Postdoctoral Research Fellow at the College of Human Medicine, Michigan State University, Flint, Michigan, applauded the initiative. Dr. Chukwuorji, who also holds the position of Fulbright Visiting Research Fellow/Faculty Affiliate in the Department of Psychology, College of Sciences and the Health Professions, Cleveland State University, Cleveland, Ohio, United States, and is a Visiting Trainer at the Coli Mental Health Academy, emphasized that the certificate of accredited training providers issued to the Academy demonstrates its compliance with all the necessary requirements for conducting mental health training and therapies. This accreditation is expected to significantly enhance the awareness and education on mental health.

The Executive Director, Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation, Reverend Chukwudiebube Nwachukwu, expressed his gratitude for the certification and accreditation granted by the international body, to the Coli Mental Health Academy (COLI Academy). “This recognition will facilitate the creation of impactful initiatives that align with the Sustainable Development Goal (SDG3) agenda of the global goals, as well as the academy’s motto, “Sanitas est Divitiae” (Health is Wealth)’” he said.

It is noteworthy that Coli Mental Health Academy previously launched its website at www.ColiAcademy.org to provide opportunities for its students and prospective students. The academy is a collaborative effort between Cope and Live Mental Health Foundation.

The Executive Director of the Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation, Reverend Chukwudiebube Nwachukwu, reaffirmed the Foundation’s commitment to promoting mental health awareness and prioritization in 2025 and beyond. This initiative aligns with the Sustainable Development Goals 3 Agenda for Good Health and Well-being. Reverend Nwachukwu made this announcement shortly after a virtual meeting with all Focal Persons of the Foundation across the country. The meeting was held to assess actions, interventions implemented in 2024, and review the Action Plan for 2025.

Before the presentation of the Action Plan for 2025, which is centered around Child Care Development (Children and Adolescents Mental Health—Holistic Approach), he commended the efforts of Focal Persons across the federation for their resilience and purposefulness, which have led to the recording of monumental results in mental health awareness and education. He urged them not to relent in their efforts.

In a related development, the Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation has launched its website for the Coli Mental Health Academy at www.coliAcademy.org. According to the Executive Director of Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation, Reverend Chukwudiebube Nwachukwu, the Coli Mental Health Academy is the brainchild of the Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation, established to promote mental health education, awareness, psychosocial engagement, Research and support. The mental health Academy will further equip individuals with the knowledge and tools necessary to navigate mental health challenges and enhance their overall well-being. Recall that Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation, the parent body of COLI Academy has accreditation with the IAOTH and courses have been designed for individuals, cooperating bodies, educators, families, and couples, such as the Psychology of Addiction and Recovery, Stress Management, Anger Management, Child and Adolescent Mental Health, Guidance and Counseling - A Guide for Schools and Educators, Bullying and Cyberbullying, and Psychology of Emotions, among many others. With more courses, including Climate Change and Mental Health, being added soon, the Academy aims to provide comprehensive mental health education and support.

We strongly encourage everyone to visit our mental academy website and thoroughly explore its resources for comprehensive guidance. The Mental Health Academy will also be offering mental health training programs to various institutions, such as schools, organizations, sports teams, farmers, and professionals from all walks of life.

The assumption that children do not experience mental health changes may be inaccurate and misleading, potentially exacerbating challenges for the child, their family, and the broader society. This is because the future of any society is contingent upon the well-being of its children. A society that neglects the development of sound children may miss out on the sustenance of its own development, as replacements for these individuals may emerge from the population.

One crucial fact we must acknowledge is that children can indeed face mental health challenges. However, it is essential for parents, guardians, caregivers, educators, and other gatekeepers in child development, care, and custody to be vigilant and responsible in recognizing these challenges. For instance, a child may have endured experiences such as abuse, treatment, or threats, which can lead to fear, shock, anxiety, stress, worry, or even panic. These traumatic experiences can have a lasting impact on a child’s mental well-being, and they may not feel comfortable speaking up about them. Similarly, witnessing violent clashes between parents or experiencing frequent caning by teachers and caregivers can also be traumatic for children.

The primary objective of this writeup is to raise awareness about the mental health challenges that children face and the detrimental consequences they can have. Traumatic experiences encountered by children can lead to various mental health conditions, including dementia and ADHD. These challenges can result in neurocognitive decline, affecting children’s cognitive, emotional, and psychomotor development. Anxiety and fear in children can manifest in various ways, such as difficulty sleeping, irritability, and avoidance of daily activities. These fears and anxieties can trigger physical symptoms like headaches, stomach aches, fatigue, and difficulty concentrating. They can also lead to problems with eating and cause negative thought patterns. These mental health issues can interfere with a child’s development, family dynamics, and school relationships and activities.

Childhood trauma can leave children with distressing experiences that, if not addressed, can negatively impact their brain health. This can manifest in memory issues, affecting their concentration and retention abilities, which can have a significant impact on their behavior. Childhood trauma can also motivate offending behavior in children. Furthermore, it can make children vulnerable and trigger cognitive impairment, leading to other behavioral changes that can lead them down negative pathways.

Extensive Mental Health Training for Key Stakeholders

Parents, guardians, caregivers, teachers, and other influential individuals must receive comprehensive mental health training to comprehend the techniques and methods for effectively addressing children at various stages of development. This training should provide a deep understanding of mental health and child psychology to prevent the perpetuation of children who have experienced traumatic events. Such events can have counterproductive effects on their child development.

All schools and organizations that interact with children should establish counseling and trauma units staffed by certified mental health professionals. Regular seminars and workshops on child mental health should be encouraged to foster continuous learning and awareness.

Research has indicated that children experience a range of mental health difficulties, including fear, stress, and anxiety. These challenges often lead them to adopt negative coping mechanisms and pathways in response to their circumstances, which they may struggle to express effectively. Furthermore, studies have revealed that children encounter a variety of mental health challenges, including Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), depression, eating disorders, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), among others.

The consequences of neglecting the prioritization of child care, development, and mental health by parents, teachers, guardians, and caregivers can lead to the development of mental health-related issues in children. It is imperative that these individuals consistently observe children in their care, pay attention to their expressions, and provide a listening ear to their concerns. By doing so, they can identify potential challenges and promptly address them. Additionally, it is crucial to monitor children for any signs of mental health challenges, such as excessive shouting, threatening behavior, or verbal abuse. Such actions can have detrimental effects on a child’s mental well-being and may lead to low self-esteem. Therefore, it is essential to seek appropriate treatment for these challenges, as excessive punishment or trauma can further exacerbate the situation.

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Athletes’ development is paramount to the attainment and realization of sustainable sports development. This is because if athletes are not developed, sporting events will lack reputable athletes to replace aging or retiring athletes. A lack of athlete development can lead to chaos and a lack of progress in sports development, which may be counterproductive for a sustainable sports development and framework.

Who is Athlete? 

An athlete is an individual who engages in competitive sporting activities.

What is Development?

This process is simply referred to as the process by which an individual or entity develops, evolves, and attains a higher level of sophistication.

Athletes Development:

The process of developing athletes’ sports skills, enhancing their efficiency in sporting actions, and improving their technical and tactical understanding of the game in order to enhance their competitiveness.

Athletes & Mental Health Challenges 

Mental health plays a significant role in the optimal performance of athletes. Athletes must possess emotional and mental stability to maintain their peak performance. According to Dr. Rachel Vanderkruit, a sports physician from Massachusetts General Hospital and the University of Colorado Springs, maintaining proper mental health can enable athletes to make quicker and more decisive decisions. Conversely, mental health issues can hinder athletes’ ability to respond promptly to decisions that may negatively impact their performance.

Dr. Vanderkruit further emphasized that certain sports-related factors, such as the time and physical demands of competitions, travel, and high competition levels, can contribute to fear of failure, anxiety, worries, and pressure to meet expectations. These factors can, in turn, lead to mental health concerns for athletes.

Way out of this quagmire:

Athletes’ development should not be treated lightly or with disdain. The more they are developed, the more abundant our talent pool becomes with accurate data on their real ages, mental and emotional stability. This athletes’ development talent pool will serve as a springboard that will feed our sports ministries, departments, and agencies, as well as clubs. It will also help to address cases and incidents of athletes asking their coaches about their ages, thereby addressing several issues related to the dependence on ancestral athletes who kept recycling ages (sports age). Another area of focus is the availability of high-performance community sports centers that will help to enhance their development.

Athletes’ mental well-being is paramount for optimal performance. Mental health challenges stemming from traumatic experiences, parental pressure, toxic relationships, anxiety, fear of failure, substance abuse, eating disorders, and other conflicting factors (such as coach-related influences) can pose significant mental health challenges to athletes, potentially leading to counterproductive development. A well-motivated athlete can achieve remarkable results, but this depends on the coach’s level of mental awareness and their ability to utilize relevant mental health skills to influence athletes’ behavior and enhance their development.

Mental Health Skills as a Tonic for Athletes Development

It is imperative that every sports coach possesses knowledge of mental health and effective strategies to enhance their athletes’ performance, as their role primarily involves human management to achieve results. Sports centers, clubs, academies, and their administrators should undergo mental health training and assessments to identify potential issues that may hinder athletes’ development. Excessive shouting at athletes or constant blaming by technical crews rarely contribute to their growth. The root cause of an athlete’s development lies in their upbringing and the environment they were raised in. Sports personnel and crew must be mentally aware to avoid transferring negative emotions to athletes, which can also be detrimental to their development. Coaches must exercise caution in their language and approach, and they should embody the roles of role models, mentors, and parents who are ready to provide assistance and address athletes’ challenges with passion.

Mental health skills 

Mindfulness:

It is crucial for athletes to focus on the present without judgment. Sports coaches and volunteers should learn this skill to improve athletes’ attention for high performance. 

Visualization:

Consciously and persistently visualizing oneself attaining and consistently exceeding high-performance objectives while maintaining a positive outlook and competing with distinction.

Encouraging Athletes on self Talk:

The positive affirmations he will mentally reinforce will empower him to overcome anxiety, mistakes, and worries, transforming them into strengths.

Athletes’ development programs and dietary interventions aimed at enhancing their brain health should not be overlooked. Their actions are heavily influenced by neurotransmitters, necessitating programs that incorporate self-care activities to optimize brain function and performance.

 In addition to the aforementioned, sports centers, clubs, academies, ministries, departments, and agencies must urgently develop the awareness of establishing a mental health unit staffed by certified mental health practitioners or sports psychologists to address concerns related to the mental well-being of athletes and sports coaches, as well as other staff members. This unified approach will facilitate optimal performance and ensure comprehensive support for all stakeholders.

In the development of athletes, it is crucial to assist them in prioritizing their mental health and overall well-being. This approach will undoubtedly ensure a well-defined and desirable athletic development.

Drugs can be categorized based on their effects on the body as follows:

• Depressants: These substances slow down the function of the central nervous system by impeding the transmission of messages between the brain and the body. Alcohol is an example of a depressant. While depressants do not necessarily cause depression, they can impair concentration, coordination, and the ability to respond effectively to one’s surroundings.

• Hallucinogens alter your perception of reality, affecting your senses and altering your perception of sight, sound, taste, smell, and touch. They can induce the experience of seeing or hearing things that are not physically present, or they can evoke unusual thoughts and emotions. A notable example of a hallucinogen is cannabis.

• Stimulants: accelerate the function of the central nervous system. They enhance the transmission of signals between the brain and the body. This can lead to a rapid increase in heart rate and blood pressure, among other physiological effects. Examples include amphetamines such as ice, caffeine, molybdenum(Moly), and ecstasy.

The progression from experimentation to full-blown addiction is a cycle that is influenced by various factors. We often encounter pain or challenges in life, and during these moments, due to lack of positive coping skills, some people may discover substances that provide temporary relief from their distress. These substances can alter one’s emotional state and induce a sense of forgetfulness, leading to a cycle of addiction.

We discover through experimentation that we like the way it made us feel and wonder if it will make us feel the same way if repeated. And it does. In other words, this new substance or habit is predictable and reliable and in some cases, even more reliable than our relationships making us develop a love relationship with it. So anytime we become sad or experience unpleasant situations or pain, we repeat this routine. This goes on for maybe days weeks, months, maybe years.

Then suddenly life happens.

Another crisis comes that makes us feel bad and we use the substance again to make us feel happy, breaking the previous routine. Let’s call this: Crisis 2. We then develop tolerance to the drug because we are taking more of it due to the new crisis. Tolerance means increasing the drug use to get the same desired effect.

This new crisis could be crisis in the family, crisis at work, crisis with our health or so on and we develop a tolerance to the substance and because we are taking more of it due to the new crisis, the brain adjusts to the effects of this new level. The brain adjusting to the effect does not mean that our organs are safe with this new level because there is a limit to how much the human body can tolerate.

As drug use increases, so do the risks and consequences which lead to other issues for instance, legal issues: you may commit a crime under the influence, relationship issues: loved ones, family may stay away from you, financial issues: Drugs are expensive to buy. This now becomes a new crisis. Let’s call this: Crisis 3.

Remember that this new crisis is purely drug related, that is, the crisis happened as a result of consequences from our taking the substance.

All these new issues we are having lead us to want more of the drug and we increase the dose being taken in order to feel normal. Now you are in a worse state than when you started taking the drug plus you don't get as high so you take more. This stage is full blown addiction. The middle part of the brain, the limbic system is the reward system of the brain and only cares about chasing the next 15 seconds of pleasure at the cost of consequences and repercussions. all it wants is to get that fleeting pleasure. if we continue to feed this midbrain, the limbic system, giving it the 15 seconds of pleasure it so desperately wants, unfortunately our frontal lobes and conscience are ignored and we are turned into animals, controlled only by our pleasure seeking rather than our rational mind. The mid brain has taken over and at this stage, people can sacrifice their families, jobs, careers , their health, and their lives and get into legal issues,  personal issues just to feed this limbic system that has now become fully in charge of their lives.

The only way to recover from this full blown addiction is through abstinence because this helps the damaged or broken neurotransmitters in the brain to recover. The time frame for recovery depends on the individual and the level of damage  already done to the brain.

Remember that using drugs to escape from reality and pain is an illusion and the user only continues to deteriorate till the drug takes full control of the person -  psychological dependency.

Harmful consequences of drugs and addiction

1. Relationships suffer

Interpersonal conflicts arise due to the challenges of counseling or engaging in conversations with individuals who are under the influence of drugs. Their behavior and demeanor significantly alter their personality, making it difficult to maintain healthy relationships. Consequently, compromised relationships lead to isolation from essential connections, including family and other important individuals.

2. Crime

Additionally, there is a correlation between drugs and crime. Engaging in activities such as obtaining drugs or sustaining drug use can lead to legal consequences. For instance, consuming alcohol and driving or committing crimes under the influence of drugs can result in legal repercussions.

3. Financial Issues

Additionally, there are financial concerns, as we have previously discussed. The cost of obtaining and sustaining an addiction is substantial, and individuals may prioritize these expenses over essential necessities such as food, rent, and school fees.

4. Vocational skills

Drug use can impair the functioning of our cortex, which in turn affects our vocational skills such as the ability to acquire new knowledge, memory retention, speech, and movement. Consequently, our learning abilities are compromised, leading to impaired performance at work and school. This, in turn, can have a detrimental impact on our future prospects.

5. Immune system and health

Additionally, our immune system is compromised, rendering us susceptible to infections and compromising our overall health.

6. Spiritual lives

Additionally, there is the spiritual aspect of our lives that is adversely affected. This includes the suppression of our conscience, the disregard for shame and guilt, the disregard for our principles and values, and the eventual demise of our conscience.

Phases of addiction

1. Experimentation or pre contemplation.

At this juncture, the individual sees nothing wrong with the issue, rendering them indifferent to the necessity of implementing a change.

2. Social or recreational stage

This is the contemplation stage, where the individual recognizes the existence of a problem but lacks the motivation to effect change.

3. Harmful dependency.

This is a daily preoccupation, a stage in the decision-making process.

Individuals at this stage have both identified the drug problem and desire to change.

4. Addiction

This is the last stage where the individual is using it to feel normal, which is full blown addiction.

Seeking help: Our intervention (Stage1-Stage5)

Help for someone with drug or substance addiction depends on the stage of the addiction, but generally speaking, we help them weigh the court cost special benefits of the drug use in a non-judgmental way.

This will help them make informed choices and move forward in their lives because you cannot help someone who does not see that what they are doing is wrong.

Note: While the focus of this article is on drug and substance use and misuse, our intervention can be modified to suit other forms of addiction like gambling addiction, sex addiction and so on.

If you or your loved one are battling with addiction, Email us immediately at: Info@copeandlive.foundation

State 1

Our intervention at this stage strictly revolves around giving drug information, education and harm minimization.

The continuing part of this article which covers stages 2 through 5 of our intervention will be covered in our e-book.

The significance of good mental health for sports coaches cannot be overstated, given the paramount importance of good health and general well-being for individuals, athletes, and the overall development of sports.

A sports coach is responsible for developing and training athletes to enhance their skills and prepare them for competition. These coaches bear substantial responsibilities, as nurturing raw talent is a complex and challenging endeavor. They devise strategic training programs that cater to the physical, mental, and emotional development of their athletes. Additionally, they play a crucial role in motivating athletes, inspiring self-discovery, and unlocking their potential. Furthermore, they assess athletes’ performance to identify areas for improvement.

Sports coaches possess essential skills that contribute to their effectiveness. These include extensive knowledge and experience in sports, a comprehensive understanding of the human body (anatomy), and the ability to effectively solve problems, communicate, and teach.

However, sports coaching is not without its challenges. Sports coaches face numerous stressors that can negatively impact their mental health and, consequently, their productivity, the performance of their athletes, and their overall well-being. These stressors include organizational threats, job insecurity, conflicts with other staff members, and limited opportunities for social interaction. These factors can lead to emotional distress and negatively affect their physical and mental health.

A sports coach should not overlook the significance of maintaining their mental well-being. It is crucial for them to prioritize their mental health and maintain a state of emotional and mental stability to effectively discharge their duties. By prioritizing their mental health, coaches can enhance their emotional resilience and mental stability, enabling them to support athletes in unlocking their full potential in sporting endeavors.

Maintaining mental and emotional stability also facilitates coaches’ ability to stay focused, remain motivated, and effectively manage challenging emotions during training or competitions.

To facilitate their mental recovery and enhance their performance, it is recommended that coaches seek guidance from certified mental health practitioners and experts as the need arises. Additionally, coaches should incorporate self-care activities into their routines to manage stressful and fearful moments that may potentially lead to traumatic experiences.

The Writer Coach Ebere Amaraizu holds certifications as a Certified Sports Coach and a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Coach. He is also an Olympic sports administrator and manager and an alumnus of the U.S. Government IVLP.

‘‘False beliefs, or delusions, and false perceptions, or hallucinations, are characteristic symptoms of schizophrenia’’: The Pontifical Academy of Sciences.

Values form the core of our personal and social identity, deeply influencing how we relate with others and fostering a sense of belonging and emotional grounding. Values are tested in the face of mistreatment, need, adversity and deprivation.

Identity refers to the understanding of who we are, our self-concept, and how we perceive ourselves in relation to the world. It includes our beliefs, values, roles, and experiences, all of which shape how we interact with others and make decisions.

WHY VALUES ARE IMPORTANT

• Values serve as a compass, guiding individuals towards a fulfilling life. They provide a sense of purpose and meaning, enabling people to make intentional decisions that align with their core principles.

• Beyond personal fulfilment, values play a crucial role in fostering meaningful relationships. They enable individuals to establish boundaries, establish healthy connections, and develop relationships that respect their self-worth.

• Furthermore, research suggests that individuals who adopt a value-based lifestyle tend to experience improved mental well-being. This is because values provide a framework for self-reflection and self-improvement, contributing to overall mental health and resilience.

• At the societal level, values contribute to harmonious interactions and the achievement of collective goals that may be challenging to attain individually. They foster a sense of unity and purpose, enabling societies to progress and thrive.

• In essence, values serve as a catalyst for personal growth, resilience, and the creation of a more fulfilling society. They empower individuals to shape their future and embrace their authentic selves, leading to a life of purpose and meaning.

BUILDING IDENTITY AND VALUES

The principles we hold dear, what we believe to be right or important, serve as a foundation for who we are. To build a strong identity, we must be clear about our values, as they influence our choices, actions, and the way we relate to the world. When we align our actions with our values, our sense of identity becomes stronger and more authentic.

HOW VALUES BUILD IDENTITY

Values act as the pillars that shape and reinforce our identity. When we prioritise certain values, such as honesty, compassion, or loyalty, these become defining traits in our identity. The consistency with which we live by our values solidifies our sense of self, giving us a clear understanding of who we are.

TYPES OF VALUES

There are various types of values that influence our identity. Some common categories include:

1. FAMILY VALUES:

Family values are the moral and ethical principles passed down from generation to generation, deeply rooted in tradition and culture. They shape how we view relationships, respect, and responsibilities within our close connections.

• RESPECT:

Respect is foundational in family values, teaching us to honour others' perspectives and roles, particularly those of elders, while maintaining dignity in our interactions.

• RESPONSIBILITY:

This value instils a sense of duty and accountability, whether in family life, work, or community.

• LOVE AND SUPPORT:

Family values emphasise emotional bonding and care, encouraging mutual support and understanding during difficult times.

2. PERSONAL VALUES:

Personal values are individually developed principles that guide our personal decisions and actions. Unlike family values, which we inherit, personal values evolve based on our experiences and reflections.

• INTEGRITY:

Integrity involves being honest and true to oneself, aligning actions with beliefs, and acting ethically in all situations.

• AMBITION:

This value reflects the drive to achieve goals, pursue success, and strive for personal growth.

• INDEPENDENCE:

Independence is the ability to make decisions and take actions autonomously, without being overly influenced by others.

Personal values help shape our unique identity, giving us a sense of direction and purpose. They allow us to navigate life's complexities with clarity and confidence.

3. CULTURAL VALUES:

These are shared beliefs and traditions within a community or society, guiding behaviours and worldview.

4. MORAL VALUES:

These concern principles of right and wrong, shaping ethical decision-making.

5. SPIRITUAL VALUES:

These involve beliefs rooted in faith or a higher purpose, shaping our sense of compassion and understanding of the world.

ARE IDENTITY AND PERSONALITY DIFFERENT?

While identity and personality are related, they are distinct concepts. Personality refers to the characteristics and traits we are born with or develop early in life, such as being introverted or extroverted. Identity, on the other hand, is shaped over time through our values, experiences, and decisions. While personality is more about behaviour, identity involves deeper aspects of belief and purpose.

KEY QUESTIONS TO REFLECT ON:

- WHO ARE YOU?

- WHAT DEFINES YOU?

- WHAT IS YOUR IDENTITY ROOTED IN?

- WHAT KEEPS YOU GROUNDED IN TIMES OF WEAKNESS?

Answering these questions helps clarify our values and reinforces our sense of identity. It is through self-reflection that we can better understand our inner selves and align our actions with our beliefs.

THE HEALING PROCESS

Identity and values are critical during times of struggle. When faced with difficulties or uncertainty, our values are put to the test and serve as a compass that helps us navigate challenges. Healing often begins with re-establishing our identity, recognising our strengths, and returning to the values that sustain us. As we reconnect with who we are and what we stand for, we find the resilience to overcome hardships and restore our mental health.

Travel anxiety occurs in the mind. It is very real and is also known as travel-related stress or travel phobia, refers to the heightened sense of worry, fear, or discomfort that some individuals experience when faced with the prospect of travelling. It can affect people at any point in their journey—before, during, or after travel. This form of anxiety can negatively affect a person’s mental health, impacting their ability to enjoy or even proceed with their trip and can even manifest with physical symptoms.

 WHY SOME PEOPLE MAY HAVE TRAVEL ANXIETY

People may experience travel anxiety for various reasons, often stemming from their fear of the unknown or concerns about potential risks associated with the trip. Local travel anxiety often stems from unique, localised challenges that travellers encounter. Here are some of the most common reasons:

ROAD ACCIDENTS: Fear of unsafe driving, poor road conditions, or vehicle breakdowns on poorly maintained roads.

KIDNAPPING AND CRIME: Concerns over personal safety, especially in areas with higher rates of crime or kidnapping.

UNLAWFUL HARASSMENT: Anxiety around the potential for unwarranted stops, questioning, or extortion from law enforcement while travelling.

COST OF TRANSPORTATION: Financial stress due to high or unpredictable travel costs, especially during peak travel times or economic instability.

FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN: Uncertainty about the destination, unfamiliar locations, whether one would get to their destination unscathed, and cultural differences.

FINANCIAL STRESS: The pressure of budgeting, expenses, or managing money during travel.

LOGISTICAL ISSUES: Worries about transportation delays, sudden flight changes and cancellations, unreliable transit schedules, or issues with directions and navigation.

SOCIAL ANXIETY: Discomfort in busy or unfamiliar spaces, especially when in congested areas.

PAST NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES: Prior experiences of delays, crime, or other traumatic and unpleasant situations may leave individuals about to travel having lingering anxiety.

 SYMPTOMS OF TRAVEL ANXIETY

Symptoms of travel anxiety can vary, often including:

1. RESTLESSNESS AND IRRITABILITY

2. TROUBLE SLEEPING BEFORE TRAVEL

3. RAPID HEARTBEAT OR SWEATING

4. STOMACH DISCOMFORT OR NAUSEA

5. AVOIDANCE OF PLANNING OR OUTRIGHTLY CANCELLING TRIPS

HOW TO OVERCOME TRAVEL ANXIETY

PLAN AND PREPARE AHEAD:

Research your route and destination thoroughly, check transportation options, and be aware of the safest routes and any high-risk areas, book accommodations in advance, make a packing list, and have a solid itinerary. Knowing these details and being well-prepared reduces the fear of the unknown, helps you feel more in control, can give you more confidence and reduces uncertainty.

PRACTICE RELAXATION TECHNIQUES:

Incorporate deep breathing, mindfulness, or light stretches to calm yourself before and during the journey. These can help manage stress responses and keep your mind focused on the present.

POSITIVE SELF-TALK:

Challenge negative thoughts by reminding yourself that you are capable of handling any situation that may arise and that travel can be a positive experience. Reframing travel as an opportunity rather than a threat can help reduce anxiety.

 LIMIT CAFFEINE AND SUGAR:

Opt for water or herbal teas to stay hydrated and reduce stimulants that can elevate anxiety.

TAKE BREAKS AND MOVE YOUR BODY:

Physical activity helps reduce anxiety, so make sure to include light exercise in your routine before and during travel. Whether it’s stretching, walking, or doing light yoga, movement releases tension and helps improve mood.

SEEK SUPPORT FROM FRIENDS, FAMILY, OR PROFESSIONALS:

Talking to someone who understands your concerns can be immensely helpful. Reach out to supportive friends or family members. If travel anxiety significantly impacts your daily life, consider speaking to a mental health professional for additional support and strategies.

START SMALL:

If travel anxiety is severe, consider starting with small trips close to home. Gradually increasing the distance and complexity of your trips can help desensitise you to the stress of travel over time.

CREATE A COMFORT KIT:

Bring a small kit with essentials that bring comfort, such as snacks, water, headphones, and a relaxing playlist. Having these on hand can help calm your nerves throughout the journey.

FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE EXPERIENCES:

Shift your focus from the potential problems to the joys of travel. Embrace the opportunity to see new places, meet new people, and create memories. Focusing on the positive aspects of travel can counterbalance anxiety.

CONCLUSION:

Travel anxiety is common and can present real challenges, but it doesn’t need to hold you back from reaching your destination. By understanding and preparing for your specific triggers and utilising coping techniques, you can learn to manage this anxiety effectively thereby improving your mental health. Remember, travel is about discovery—not only of new places but also of your own resilience and capacity for growth. You will discover new places and find comfort in your own capabilities. Take each journey step by step, knowing that each trip strengthens your confidence and skill for navigating future travel.

Menstrual depression refers to the emotional and physical symptoms that occur before or during menstruation. It can lead to intense mood swings, irritability, anxiety, sadness, and other debilitating symptoms that interfere with daily functioning. Premenstrual dysphoric disorder(PMDD) is the clinical diagnosis for severe menstrual depression, and it can affect a woman’s mental health, relationships, and overall quality of life.

COMMON SYMPTOMS:

• INTENSE MOOD SWINGS: Extreme irritability, sadness, or anger.

• HEAVY FATIGUE: Persistent tiredness that doesn’t improve with rest.

• ANXIETY: Increased stress or nervousness, often without a clear cause.

• PHYSICAL PAIN: Cramps, headaches, and muscle aches.

• SLEEPING TROUBLES: Difficulty falling or staying asleep, or sleeping excessively.

• APPETITE CHANGES: Overeating or lack of appetite.

IMPACT ON A WOMAN’S LIFE

• SOCIAL ISOLATION: Women may feel disconnected from family, friends, and colleagues due to mood swings or physical discomfort.

• WORK IMPACT: Difficulty concentrating or completing tasks, affecting job performance.

• RELATIONSHIP STRAIN: The emotional toll can strain personal relationships, causing misunderstandings and conflicts.

CULTURAL STIGMA:

In many cultures, menstruation is stigmatised, often viewed as a taboo subject. Women experiencing menstrual depression may be told to avoid certain activities, attend certain places, or keep their condition hidden due to societal beliefs about menstruation. This cultural stigma can intensify feelings of isolation and shame, making the mental and emotional impact of menstrual depression even more challenging to cope with.

MANAGING MENSTRUAL DEPRESSION:

• MAINTAIN A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE: Balanced nutrition, regular exercise, and proper sleep can help reduce symptoms.

• PRACTICE STRESS MANAGEMENT: Techniques such as meditation, yoga, or deep breathing can help manage anxiety and irritability.

• BUILD A SUPPORT SYSTEM: Having a strong network of friends, family, or support groups can provide much-needed understanding and encouragement.

• EDUCATE OTHERS: Raise awareness about menstrual health to combat stigma and create more supportive environments for women.

Rivalry and a lack of compassion in our society are often the result of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). A classic example of this can be found in the Bible, where King Herod murdered all boys two years and under in his kingdom while attempting to kill Jesus Christ. He had requested the wise men to find the exact location of the new king and inform him so that he could worship him as well, intending to kill him. After his deception was revealed to the wise men by God, he became enraged when they failed to return and used the state’s agencies to murder children so that he would remain the sole ruler.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a behavior and a mental health condition characterized by an unreasonably high sense of self-importance. Studies have shown that individuals with NPD typically require and seek excessive attention and desire to be admired solely by others. Furthermore, research indicates that such individuals may lack the ability to comprehend or empathize with the feelings of others, which is counterproductive to the promotion of a compassionate society.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, particularly with regard to a lack of empathy. It also entails a disregard for the feelings of others and an excessive need for admiration. Instead of caring for others, showing compassion, and creating positive community impact, individuals with NPD prioritize seeking attention and admiration. Studies have demonstrated that individuals with NPD are prevalent in various aspects of human endeavors, posing a threat to the progress of a progressive society because they are inherently self-centered and arrogant, always preoccupied with themselves and seeking admiration.

When an individual with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) experiences intense jealousy and perceives you as a threat, they may initiate a smear campaign to damage your reputation. Research conducted by neurological brain behavior experts suggests that the primary objective of such a campaign is to isolate and disparage their opponent, regardless of their familial or professional relationships. This strategy aims to prevent the opponent from raising concerns, thereby undermining their credibility.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapists caution that individuals who accept the smear campaign without considering the opponent’s perspective have never been on their side. Such individuals often harbor negative feelings towards the person involved.

The primary motivation behind the smear campaign is the narcissist’s fear of exposure. Narcissists are aware of their wrongdoing and seek to conceal it. Individuals with NPD recognize their malicious, abusive, and manipulative tactics and resort to smearing others to regain control.

When a narcissist perceives a loss of control, they redirect their efforts towards manipulating the narratives surrounding their opponent’s reputation.

Does the person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) experience any negative effects? 

In essence, every action has a corresponding consequence, which may leave the individual with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) in a state of regret and depression. This behavior causes worry, stress, and a lack of peace of mind for the person with such a disorder. They are never fully satisfied and consistently lose competent men and women around them. If left untreated and addressed through therapy, the person with NPD can increase the likelihood of developing other mental illnesses and disorders.

We are all called to love one another and to be our brothers’ keepers. Let us increase the love, concern, and empathy for one another and for a compassionate society.

For further information about how individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) affect those around them, please refer to the following: https://www.copeandlive.foundation/blog/narcissistic-mother

Self-awareness is paramount to cultivating a positive mindset. It enables individuals to comprehend their true selves and the underlying reasons for their behaviors. Moreover, self-awareness fosters improved interpersonal relationships and promotes positive behavioral patterns. Ultimately, self-awareness can contribute to personal growth and mastery of life.

However, it is essential to consider the following factors that can hinder self-awareness and hinder personal growth:

Ego:

Excessive self-importance can distort reality, leading to overestimation of abilities and worth while underestimating the effort required for goal achievement.

Envy:

Envy can have detrimental effects on emotional, mental, and physical well-being, causing feelings of unfairness, inadequacy, and defectiveness.

Anger:

Anger can hinder progress and manifest in increased anxiety, high blood pressure, headaches, and subsequent changes in mood and cognitive function.

Ignorance:

Lack of knowledge can hinder self-awareness and prevent individuals from making informed decisions.

Fear:

Fear is a formidable adversary that can prevent individuals from seizing opportunities.

Self-awareness empowers individuals to recognize and understand the impact of emotions on their health and well-being. It encourages self-discovery and the unlocking of potential, while simultaneously preventing individuals from hindering their own growth due to fear of leaving their comfort zones. It is crucial to prioritize mental health and maintain a healthy brain. Ultimately, life is for the living, and mastering life leads to happiness and well-being.

A certified Child psychologist and emotional intelligence Life coach, Mrs. Uzoamaka Nwachukwu, commended the efforts of Amaraizu Mmesoma on her academic achievements, which were unveiled during the federal University of Technology Owerri’s recently concluded convocation ceremony held on December 6, 2024.

Mrs. Nwachukwu, who is also the Co-Founder of Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation, made this remark on Friday, December 20, 2024, during the review of the organization’s action plan for the year about to end, 2024 and the upcoming year 2025.

During the annual meeting organized by Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation, Miss Amaraizu Mmesoma was recognized and appointed as an Ambassador to Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation, tasked with inspiring younger individuals, particularly girls, to achieve greater gender strides in academics and all fields.

Expressing her elation and admiration for Amaraizu Mmesoma’s academic excellence, Mrs. Nwachukwu, who is also a mother and woman, emphasized the significance of this achievement. She underscored that this recognition should be celebrated and promoted by all women.

“We are delighted to celebrate the remarkable achievements of Mmesoma Amaraizu, the recipient of the Overall Best Graduating Female Student Award from Federal University of Technology Owerri (FUTO). She has been recognized as the best graduating female student faculty of Engineering and the best graduating student in Mechanical Engineering at FUTO, with an exceptional CGPA of 4.73 on a 5.0 scale, accompanied by first-class honors in Mechanical Engineering.

Mmesoma’s remarkable accomplishments extend beyond her academic achievements. She has been awarded five undergraduates awards, a testament to her unwavering dedication and resilience.

The Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation has acknowledged Mmesoma’s remarkable feat and commended her for her resilience. Her achievements serve as an inspiration to all female students, encouraging them to strive for excellence and mental well-being” she said.

Chief Sir Barr OAU Onyema of Akpaga Ikenga Chambers, and Advisor to the Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation, expressed his admiration for Mmesoma, describing her as a model who can positively influence other females and contribute significantly to society. He expressed his pride in being a part of this historic moment and acknowledged her intelligence, articulation, and brilliance.

Mmesoma expressed her gratitude to God for His infinite mercy and grace. She also expressed her sincere appreciation to her parents, whom she described as role models. She acknowledged their unwavering commitment, guidance, and discipline, as well as the values they instilled in her. Mmesoma emphasized the importance of discipline, determination, and dedication, and expressed pride in their unwavering support. She also extended her gratitude to her siblings and friends, acknowledging their positive influence on her journey.

Caring for our brain has become paramount due to its significance and role in achieving holistic well-being. Humans are composed of the body, soul, and spirit, which interact through cognitive, affective, and psychomotor frameworks. The brain plays a pivotal role in these interactions, as all internal communications in humans are mediated by neurotransmitters and the central nervous system (CNS).

The brain, located within the skull, regulates all physical functions of the human body. Expert records indicate that the brain is the most intricate organ in the body, comprising approximately 86 billion active neurons that interact to form circuits and exchange information. The brain is divided into three main parts: the cerebellum, cerebrum, and brainstem.

Without the brain, our ability to think, feel, and engage in physical activities would be severely compromised. It is a vital component of the CNS, serving as the central hub for gathering, organizing, and disseminating information throughout the body. Additionally, the brain controls the body’s functions by integrating sensory information and directing motor responses.

Memory and the Brain

Memory refers to how our brain processes and stores information. The information stored in our memory, a component of the brain, can be retrieved at any time. It also involves the recall of stored information in the desired sequence. Furthermore, the brain supports the functions of the mind, including thinking, feeling, and engaging in psychomotor activities.

Studies have demonstrated that a significant portion of the population neglects their brain health, leading to various brain damages and mental illnesses that profoundly impact overall brain function. Neglecting brain care can cause substantial damage to the brain, resulting in reduced alertness and consciousness, alterations in cognitive abilities, and difficulties in performing normal functions related to movement, memory, emotions, and heartbeat. These issues pose serious challenges to humanity.

Numerous factors contribute to brain damage, including insufficient oxygen, certain diseases, traumatic situations associated with severe negative incidents and shock, and excessive alcohol consumption. Alcohol can cause brain atrophy and interfere with brain cell function and longevity. Additionally, lack of proper rest, insufficient sleep, and nutritional deficiencies can contribute to brain damage. Furthermore, severe infections around the brain can lead to amnesia (memory loss). According to the U.S. National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke, symptoms of a mild brain injury may include confusion and difficulty with memory and concentration.

The brain is the cornerstone of our actions and behaviors in life. A healthy brain promotes good concentration and active memory. However, the mind is the intricate network of thought processes and consciousness that emerges from the neurological activity of the brain.

According to Nurse Kelsey Kidd, a nurse practitioner in neurology in Mankato, Minnesota, there are several strategies to maintain brain health, including regular exercise, adequate sleep, improved diet, mental stimulation through activities like playing or writing therapies, puzzles, singing, and dancing, social engagement, maintaining healthy blood vessels through increased physical activity, diet, and reduced sodium consumption to lower blood pressure and cholesterol, and avoiding smoking and alcohol. The manner in which we care for our brains by identifying and managing factors that can lead to negative emotions or vulnerability determines our mental and emotional well-being. By prioritizing our mental health, we contribute to a more sustainable and compassionate society.

Coach Ebere Amaraizu is a certified cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) professional and U.S. IVLP Alumni. Additionally, holds the position of chairman of Rangers International FC Foundation and Lead Consultant for Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation.

Unlocking your potential demands significant emotional and mental stability. However, the most crucial aspect and the initial step is self-awareness. Self-awareness guides you in discovering your true self and potential. It assists you in comprehending your fears, worries, anxiety, and other distracting elements such as procrastination, shyness, people-pleasing attitude, low esteem, and low energy that tend to hinder your passion. Self-awareness exposes you to the knowledge of therapeutic approaches that enable you to overcome your worries, anxieties, disappointments, and transform them into strength. Moreover, it dispels fears surrounding stepping outside your comfort zone.

It is essential to consider your mindset, thoughts, anxieties, and worries that you must overcome. The negative mindset of “I cannot” can be an impediment to unlocking your potential. Never give up and say, “I cannot”. Rather you can always ask yourself, “How can I?”

-Coach Ebere Amaraizu, CBT Coach, U.S. IVLP Alumni

According to the International Association of Chiefs of Police and other stakeholders, mental health concerns such as anxiety, depression, stress, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) have been identified as prevalent issues among law enforcement officers worldwide, including in Nigeria.

The mental well-being of officers significantly impacts their performance at work, particularly in critical aspects of public safety, such as making quick and effective decisions under pressure.

COPE & LIVE MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS FOUNDATION EXPRESSES OPTIMISM ON POSITIVE OUTCOMES ON PARTNERSHIP WITH CAPIO ON HEALTH CARE INTERVENTIONS FOR CUSTODIAL CENTRES

On November 12, 2024, the Executive Director of the Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation, Reverend Chukwudiebube Nwachukwu, expressed optimism about the positive outcomes that will arise from the partnership with the Carmelite Prisoners Interest Organization Nigeria (CAPIONG) on Health Care Intervention For Enugu Custodial Centres. This expression was made in response to the health care intervention shortly after a project planning meeting with the project team members was held in the conference room of CAPIONG’s Bent Lane office, GRA Enugu.

According to Reverend Nwachukwu, the project outlines holistic health care interventions that are supported by psychosocial engagement and medical outreaches. It is anticipated that these interventions will yield desired results by improving the general well-being and existence of inmates.

He commended the efforts of CAPIONG for their significant strides in health care interventions for custodial centers in Enugu, which will commence in January 2025. It was gathered that the partnership team with CAPIONG includes medical professionals, pharmacists, and mental health professionals/counselors from the Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation.

In life, we occasionally encounter challenges that prompt us to respond in a manner that either yields positive outcomes or otherwise. Sometimes these challenges leave us with emotional scars, worries, fears, and stress, which hinder our self-discovery. Self-discovery entails comprehending our true selves, encompassing our identity, capabilities, and contributions. It also involves unlocking our potential by recognising our true selves and our strengths and weaknesses.

Unlocking potential encompasses various aspects, including developing our inner selves by understanding our true selves and our capabilities (mental and emotional stability). It also involves improving our physical well-being through exercise, balanced nutrition, and adequate sleep. Additionally, it involves cultivating positive habits that align with our goals, setting objectives, embracing challenges that step outside our comfort zones, and learning from failures.

However, fear, worries, and anxiety can create elements of panic and hinder our ability to unlock our inherent potential. For instance, the fear of certain events that may disrupt our current circumstances (our comfort zone) and lead us to uncomfortable situations. We must overcome fear, worry, and anxiety to develop the courage to transform our vulnerability into strength and positivity. Furthermore, we recognise that our comfort zone may not contribute to our growth, but our uncomfortable zones can yield positive results. The earlier we acknowledge that coping is an inherent aspect of life, the better equipped we are to navigate challenges and achieve our goals.

Persistent fear hinders us from realisation of our potential as we may perceive our current circumstances as sufficient for comfort. In Genesis Chapter 12, verses 1-2, an account is provided of Abraham’s departure from his comfort zone, leading to an extraordinary blessing.

Fear enslaves our minds, preventing us from unlocking our full potential. It also weakens our immune system and can cause cardiovascular damage. Fear can trigger ulcers, decrease fertility, and accelerate aging and premature death. Additionally, it can damage specific brain regions, disrupt emotional regulation processes, and lead to various mental health challenges, such as fatigue, clinical depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Coping with fear necessitates self-awareness, which educates us about negative emotions and their impact on mental well-being. Remember, life is for the living. Discover your true self today, overcome your worries and fears, and recognise opportunities in challenging moments. When you focus solely on the difficulties, you will encounter more challenges. Conversely, when you conquer worries and fears, you will perceive opportunities in every obstacle. Unleash your potential by venturing beyond your comfort zone and confronting your fears. Seek professional help from a mental health professional or counsellor for a holistic approach to well-being.

The author, Coach Ebere Amaraizu, is a U.S. IVLP Alumni and a certified Cognitive Behavioural therapy (CBT) coach.